How to Design the Teenager Bedroom
As our children start to grow up they are going to not only need more guidance, but more space. They will want to have their room to themselves and not be told what to do. While you can certainly accommodate them in giving them their space, they will quickly learn in life that they will always be told what to do. Teenagers can be the worst at times. They get moody, want to have the responsibility and then tend not to act on it when they do have it. They receive a lot of pressure to make life decisions when they have little preparation to do so. As parents, it is up to us to give them that guidance, and it starts in the bedroom where they feel the most comfortable.
Their bedroom is their domain, their safe zone, their place to not have to be on their guard. They want privacy, respect, and the ability to relax without anyone getting into their business. As parents, we often see this as rebellion against what we are trying to teach them, yet be aware that they listen more than you think. We need to give them some space that they can use to be themselves, be at peace with themselves, while still being able to have rules apply. It starts in the bedroom, how it is designed, and whether the teen is comfortable with it.
Traditional Bedroom Set
Traditional might mean boring, but teens will always find a way to take the boring and make it into something that will fit them. A traditional bedroom set however is the place to start for many teens. A bed that they should be making (although they probably won’t), a dresser, their own closet, and at least a desk. A nightstand with a lamp could be placed to make it more traditional which gives them a step towards what you might see in an adult bedroom, although not every teen will want that. They may want the traditional sense with their own little flair instead.
Starting with a traditional set is a great way to get them towards thinking about what they want. It’s good to take them to the store and see what different sets look like before you decide. Instead of a table they may want to have a floor lamp. The desk is needed for them to get their work done of course since they are in school.
The traditional sense of the word doesn’t apply to everyone, as most teens want to be different and stand out on their own. Perhaps a bed that sleeps on top with the desk below might be something that works for them, allowing them to have more room in their room. It allows them to have a television and their game set (if you allow that) in their room. Perhaps they want to have a day bed, with a lower bunk in case friends come over and stay the night. This saves you space in the rest of the house when those friends are over as well.
The walls could be painted different colors or a themed design like a kid’s room, but tailored more for the teen. Or you could use wall art that sticks to the wall instead. This allows a personal touch and they can add their favorite sports star or movie star on their wall. Posters will probably adorn their walls, they always do, although it is up to you to allow them or not. You could use bean bag chairs, futons or all sorts of other furniture to make the room fun, but fun that a teen would enjoy. Nothing has to match in a teens room, at least not for most teens.
Let Them Do It Themselves
The first two options just might not work. In fact, in most cases they probably won’t. A teen acts out and wants to do things their way. To give them an understanding of the budget you are working with, versus what they need to have in their room, let them choose. Don’t actually give them the money and let them go buy everything though. Instead show them what you are willing to spend for their room, and look through advertisements and furniture stores to give them an idea of what it costs. This will teach them a little about finances and hopefully a little appreciation for what you are doing for them.
Once everything is there in the house, and in their room, let them make the decisions. You obviously have some rules so they need to apply, but let them be creative enough to design what they want to do. You will be surprised at what they come up with, and it will tell you a lot about your child. They might be more traditional than you think, or they could be so creative that the room will certainly stand out.
No matter how the room is designed, both you and your child will learn a lot about the experience. They are not a child anymore for one, as they are now a teen on their way to becoming an adult. Remember that each teen is different, so if you have several they will not always want the same things. Give them the opportunity to express themselves and they will love you all the more for it.